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Light a Candle

Go only where you feel cared for and supported; where everyone sees you as perfect.

How are you doing in that department when it comes to you and your writing? Do you care for yourself enough to show up for your writing? Are you supportive of your passion for writing? Do you see yourself as perfect? Do you see your work as perfect?
The relationship we have with our writing is reflective of our relationship with ourselves.
  • Show up daily for your writing
  • Light a candle
  • Ask for guidance and support
  • Begin writing
  • Quit writing before you begin to lose energy for what you are doing, before you begin to trash talking your work, before you despair. Quit while you’re still in the flow, feeling good about yourself and the process of creating something out of nothing on the page
  • Blow out the candle
  • Ask the smoke to take your thanks and gratitude for your writing to the source of all creation
Our stories represent a deep and passionate calling.
Begin a new relationship with yourself as a writer.

Written by:
Martha Alderson
Published on:
April 13, 2010
Thoughts:
6 Comments

Categories: begin a writing ritual, healer of broken tongues, Martha Alderson, plot whisperer, positive affirmations for writers, show up and write

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  1. Anonymous

    April 14, 2010 at 3:26 pm

    I'm easily distracted. It's one of my greatest flaws and it usually has the most impact while I'm writing. I'll have an excellent idea, but then my mind turns to something else and I lose grip on my thought.

    Instead of lighting a candle, I burn incense. It calms my mood and allows me to write with a clear head (sort of). But maybe I'll try both? Candle and Incense? Or is that too much?

    — Dominique

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  2. kathrynjankowski

    April 14, 2010 at 5:25 pm

    I have power stones from Hawaii next to my keyboard, an essential oil diffuser, and Steven Halpern's "Spectrum Suite" in my CD player.

    I so enjoy your blog! I was inspired to post about the writer's journey based on your recent comments on stamina. Thanks.

    http://kjankowski.blogspot.com

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  3. anne

    April 15, 2010 at 5:31 pm

    I get very down on myself. As soon as I start writing I immediately start to think, "That's no good. That's stupid. Your characters are so flimsy and stereotypical. You're showing, not telling…" etc. I love your idea of a ritual, of having a sacred place purified of negative thoughts. I wonder if it would help to write and edit in separate places?

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  4. Tessa Emily Hall

    April 15, 2010 at 7:03 pm

    I usually drink coffee in replace of burning candles. Caffeine is my main writing inspiration. I'm not sure how, exactly. =) Great post!

    Tessa

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  5. Anonymous

    April 16, 2010 at 12:19 am

    Anne– That's an interesting thought. To have a writing space and an editing space. Maybe that would help me focus better on my writing if I knew that, while in a particular spot, only writing/editing should take place.

    — Dominique

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  6. kanishk

    May 15, 2010 at 1:48 am

    I'm easily distracted
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